Dating apps may dominate today’s dating scene, but let’s be real: users aren’t exactly thrilled with them. Instead of sparking joy, swiping often leaves users feeling drained, disappointed, and downright burned out. There’s even a name for it: “dating app burnout.” That’s the cycle of endless likes, swipes, and half-hearted messages that go absolutely nowhere, leaving you exhausted instead of excited.
And it’s not just you. Nearly 8 in 10 users report hitting some level of dating app burnout. The grind of constant scrolling and stalled conversations doesn’t just waste time: it can chip away at your mental health, cranking up anxiety, fueling loneliness, and building stress.
However, dating apps are not going anywhere anytime soon. The real question is how to use them without letting them use you. That’s where mindful strategies, and sometimes support from a therapist, can help you reclaim dating as something positive, not punishing.
Signs You’re Burnt Out by Online Dating
The truth of dating app burnout is that they create productivity sabotage in your love life. In fact, 39% of people have used a dating app before, but only 7% are currently using one. Why? Because the emotional toll of “ghosting” (or abruptly leaving individuals without a response), endless small talk, and conversations that go nowhere isn’t just discouraging: it’s draining. In a culture obsessed with optimization, dating apps can feel less like a shortcut to connection and more like another exhausting to-do list.
Plus, people of all ages and backgrounds use these apps, from your teenage nephew to your grandma. Yet, the apps are especially impacting the mental health of younger generations: Gen Z and Millennials often treat dating like a side hustle, yet 80% of Millennials and 79% of Gen Z report feeling burnt out by online dating. The cycle of swipe, match, message, repeat can quietly chip away at confidence and self-worth when the effort doesn’t lead to meaningful conversation.
But there’s good news. Step one to reclaiming your love life? Admit the apps aren’t magic. Step two? Explore real-world connections and mindful use; your sanity (and swipe thumb) will thank you.
App Performance Taking a Hit & so Is Your Mental Health
Dating apps are doing more than just fatiguing us: they’re negatively impacting our mental health. The endless swiping, the addictive thrill of maybe landing a “perfect match,” and the gamified algorithms that prize location and quick clicks over genuine connection all add up to more frustration than fulfillment. With ghosting, rejection, and burnout, it’s no wonder so many users walk away feeling worse, not better.
Here’s the kicker: it’s not just users who are unhappy. The apps themselves are struggling. In June 2025, Bumble announced it was cutting 30% of its staff, a sign that the digital dating boom is losing steam. With growing pressure from consumers who are fed up with toxic swiping culture, platforms are scrambling to rethink their algorithms and overhaul how they operate.
Still, it’s not all doom and gloom. With the right mindset, it is possible to use dating apps without letting them wreck your mental health, finding new connections while keeping your well-being front and center.
Mindful Dating: Tips for Enjoying Dating Apps Without the Stress
In theory, dating should be fun, enjoyable, and healthy, right? It is possible to use dating apps and protect your emotional health, but you should first understand your own mental health needs and dating goals. Below are some great places to start when balancing your love life and avoiding burnout:
- Be intentional about your goals for using the apps and how you use them
- Don’t be impulsive when using the apps
- Set boundaries, and be sure you aren’t just swiping or scrolling out of habit or boredom
- Take breaks as needed, and give your brain some rest from platforms
- Don’t let the ups and downs of the dating rollercoaster define your self-worth
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Romantic Realities: Online Versus Real Life
Dating apps get credit where it’s due: they’ve made it easier than ever to meet people you’d probably never come across in real life. But swipe culture, social media feeds, reality TV, and Hollywood’s endless stream of rom-coms have also changed how we think about love, and not always for the better.
The numbers back it up: one in three single social media users say scrolling actually makes them feel worse about their dating lives. Why? Online and on-screen love stories set the bar sky-high for love at first sight, instant sparks, constant grand gestures, and flawless partners. In real life, those picture-perfect scenarios rarely show up, leaving many people feeling let down.
Not only that, but dating apps are negatively impacting our psyche on a deeper level. Modern media emphasizes unrealistic body and image ideals, causing people to seek unattainable beauty standards in their partners or even use other people’s photos to pose as their own (called catfishing). In fact, out of a collection of 16 cross-sectional studies on poor body image and dating apps, 87% of them found a relationship between the two.
If that sounds familiar, you’re not the only one. Try swapping endless swiping for intentional check-ins (like only logging on a few times a week); reminding yourself that attraction can take time and is not always a split-second spark; and focusing on connections that feel easy rather than perfectly cinematic. Small shifts like these can take dating from draining to actually fun again.
Sure, real life isn’t like the movies, but imagine if your love life were on the big screen: what would the audience be shouting at you during a messy date or awkward conversation? Suddenly that “disaster” becomes a hilarious scene in your story, and you get to be both the star and the director of your own dating adventures.
How Talking to a Therapist Can Help You Navigate Online App Burnout
Dating isn’t always fun and flirty. It can be exhausting, stressful, and downright overwhelming. That’s where a therapist can be a game-changer. The right therapist won’t just help you protect your mental health; they’ll give you practical tools, fresh perspectives, and strategies to help you set goals and actually stick to them.
Of course, finding the right therapist can feel like another daunting task on your to-do list. The good news? GoodTherapy makes it easier. Various backgrounds can impact dating in different ways, but our network is filled with professionals who understand various lived experiences and meet you where you are, whoever you are. Take a look at their dedicated resources for the BIPOC community and the LGBTQ+ community to connect with someone who truly gets you.
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Find the Right Therapist for Dating Stress Through GoodTherapy
Burnout doesn’t have to be the end of your dating story. Acknowledging your limits with dating apps and resetting your expectations are empowering first steps, but you don’t have to navigate this journey alone. GoodTherapy offers professional support focused on your mental health, helping you build confidence, set healthy boundaries, and rediscover what truly feels good for you. This way, dating can become a more energizing and fulfilling experience.
If you’re ready to reclaim dating on your own terms, you can take the next step and connect with a therapist who truly understands your needs. Your well-being and your love life both deserve the best care.
And remember, support from GoodTherapy isn’t just for those who are dating. If you’re already in a relationship or considering marriage, couples therapy can be highly beneficial: over 70% of couples see positive results. GoodTherapy can connect you with compassionate professionals for marriage counseling, too. For more information, visit our marriage counseling page.
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Resources:
Forbes: Forbes Health Survey: 78% of All Users Report Dating App Burnout
AP News: Ever feel exhausted by swiping through dating apps? You might be experiencing burnout
SSRS: The Public and Online Dating in 2025
National Geographic: This is your brain on dating apps
Austin Monthly: As People Pivot from Dating Apps, Bumble Looks to Reinvent Itself
Reuters: Bumble to lay off 30% of global workforce as dating apps struggle
Pew Research Center: Dating and Relationships in the Digital Age
Forbes: Marriage Counseling: What Is It and Does it Work?
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